Updated 2023 / Creating your life!

As a Wellness Practitioner I spend a lot of time with my clients. I listen to how they speak about themselves, what kinds of statement do they tend to make about their lives.

The self-talk script is format of beliefs that we play out in our daily life. It plays in our hearts and minds. It is a story we tell ourselves about who we are, what we believe and what choices we have. 

If it is self limited it holds you prisoner to false beliefs. You are continuously "creating our life" every minute of everyday. Whether you are doing this consciously or unconsciously is the question!

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Creating your life is no different than designing the look you want for your bedroom, choosing a paint color for your house, or reworking your wardrobe. Creating your life means dreaming your life "on purpose" with intention to manifest what you want in terms of evolving in your consciousness. You live in a dream field that will/does conform to your expectations, for better or worse!

How to's to support "creating" or "evolving" your life?

• Daydreaming. Yes the thing you may have been told to stop doing as a child! Daydreaming is visualization at it's finest. It is POWERFUL! Imagine and dream about the life you want, the job, the look of your life, your home, how you would like to spend your time. Proverbs 29:18, this Bible passage tells us, "Where there is no vision, the people perish". Evolving your life/consciousness is a spiritual truth regardless of your religious or non-religious orientation. Without a vision, an aspiration humans tend to de-evolve into the doldrums of a joyless life. Daydreaming is a way of building your vision.

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• Foster a sense that you deserve to have the life you want or have dreamt of. This one can be tricky. You may have grown up with messages that squelched this belief or filled you with a sense of worthlessness, no worries...it's not terminal, unless you choose it to be!  The Zero Point Process our Heart modality provides a tool to release longstanding identities and misbeliefs we have accumulated from the programing of childhood and inheritance of our families way of seeing things. Anything that reinforces a positive shift in the way you see yourself will heal and restore your sense of self.

 

• Cultivating intentions. By focusing on your dreams and hopes, rather than on what's not happening or what you believe cannot happen,  you shift your thinking to more positive and energizing thoughts. It is important to understand that we are vibrational beings and as such we are affected down to our microbiology by our thoughts. This is a fundamental understanding of Taoist Medicine, from which the practice of Chi Kung arises. Chi Kung, Tai Chi, martial arts of the similar sort all work with the vibrational self, through focused attention/noticing. Like a martial arts master you are able to focus your attention on what you want to create and learn to resist chronic thought patterns that keep you in the squirrel cage of negative thinking. This is replacing old chi (energy and information) for new chi, a new way of seeing and being, literally. This renewal of vital energy will propel you seemingly magically toward your new beliefs. You will conform to your vision as an evolution of consciousness.

 

• Noticing patterns. Noticing patterns of thoughts and behaviours is the starting point for shifting your intentions. Here's an example of noticing a pattern.... if someone who makes you feel good you will enjoy being around them and you would choose their company over others! If we have a need to abuse ourselves out of self hatred you will/may feel insecure in relationships that offer us comfort and hope and tend to push away from or avoid supporting relationships. Noticing this pattern is the clue about your life pattern. An intention statement such as, "I am deserving of love and respect from myself and others", would be a good place to start shifting that consciousness. Noticing, focusing awareness on what is unevolved and of a lower consciousness allows you to accept what is and apply a sense of nonjudgmental love to that. The more you notice it with love for yourself the sooner you'll decide you don't need it anymore. 

Success Tip: The process of recreating your life is simple but not necessarily easy. As with any human activity involving establishing new habits, you won't stick with it if it isn't fun and enjoyable. Find a way to see this as something playful. Start small with one new and simply intention, such as "I am changing the way I see myself"!

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Here are some suggestions to get you started creating your life.

• Intention statements. See the downloadable "Creating Intentions"handout below for guidance. This  doc provides a set of intention statements and is a helpful guide for creating and distilling your intention statements. As you invest the time in refining your intention statement(s), you are stepping onto the pathway to conscious choices, rather than allowing the flow of your life to be randomly oriented by circumstances.

 

• Build a tangible version of your dream or intentions. Take a tip from "Eat, Pray, Love" a wonderful story by Elizabeth Gilbert. Buy a trunk or suitcase to keep your vision tokens in. These can be postcards, travel brochures, a bikini that represent your ideal physique...anything that allows you to SEE your vision more clearly. A vision board collage using magazine cut outs or a digital version using Pinterest, which is a great vision board tool! Not your thing? Write it out, instead. Ramble on paper or on your computer, play with it! Refine your vision like a story, a novella of your life as you would like it to be. Dare to imagine something wonderful that would satisfy your SOUL. MAKE IT REAL!!
• End the voice of K-F#@& Radio in your head. The "F" word! Sometimes it's the only word to describe something hateful!! You know this voice. It never has anything good to say about you or anything else. This voice arises from generations of programming and is literally in your DNA. It always about what you aren't, your faults, how fat you are, how stupid...on and on. This station plays and plays in the mind. It can be very subtle or obvious. It can be TURNED OFF. Saying out loud the opposite of the messages you receive from this voice. If it says your fat, reframe that as a POSITIVE STATEMENT.  "Everything I eat is making me thinner and healthier now" or "I am healthy, strong and the right weight for me". Practice this and in no time at all that voice will disappear.
• Teach yourself to speak in positive "I AM" statements. I am strong, I am beautiful inside and out, I am able. "I AM that I AM" was the description the Divine presence used of itself when the patriarch Moses asked the burning bush, "Who shall I say sent me?". The "I AM" identity, means being always in a state of becoming...it's as simple as that, I AM ...fill in the blank with what you choose to become!
• Give up resolutions, goals and deadlines. This flies in the face of all those self help books! In the movie Julie & Julia, Julie's husband says of deadlines..."I love a deadline, especially the sound it makes as it goes whooshing past". There is nothing more demoralizing that setting a resolution, a goal or a deadline and then failing. It's another strike against you because of your attachment to the outcome. Failure implies you are a failure. You may be thinking...this is just a difference of words, semantics. Yes, it is because words are important! The words we use to speak to ourselves are especially important. To illustrate that point, remember the last time someone said something to you that hurt your feelings. An emotional sucker punch brings a powerful rush of stress hormones delivering a bad feeling though words.  WORDS ARE IMPORTANT. Trust me on this, set an intention, not a goal!

Creating a dream version of yourself and your life is an art form that will yield amazing results over time. In the end you will FEEL more confident and capable. The true stuff of life we experience viscerally through our feelings. By creating and dreaming your intention you will improve the way you feel on every level and that's empowering!
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Supportive Reading:
The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz
The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle
Waking the Tiger, Peter Levine
Book of Secrets, Deepak Chopra
* Be encouraged to buy used books!

Happy Dreaming 
Vanessa Goldeen
Founder of Bridge to Health
A Commonsense Approach to Health and Wellness